Can you relate?

My mother committed murder. I was the reluctant accomplice.

A kitchen knife. A whistling kettle. A wailing victim. She got away with murder.

I stared at her, first in disbelief, then in shock, and finally, in anger.

“How could you?”

And she laughed – the nerve of her.

“What?” She questioned. “I own them all. I can do with them as I wish, afterall they’ve got no say.”

I looked at her incredulously… “You shouldn’t have done that. You shouldn’t have. Not after I’ve developed a cute likeness for that chicken. Now, I’m seriously considering turning vegan.”

In some ways, her words stuck with me. “I can do with them as I wish.

“I can do with them as I wish.

“I can do with them as I wish.

Leave me at a table with the Philippians please. I would love to have a meal with them at four o’eight.

I enjoyed the meal by the way. Here, I reserved you something: Commit that murder. Dead those thoughts. That negative mindset, it ain’t yours. Kill it.

Paul said “you are the guardian of your mind.” No more negativity, no more fear. Renew your thoughts and think positively. You are the guardian of your mind, you can do with your thoughts as you wish. So, employ your mind in thinking positively.

“Acquire the Bible language, speak the word of faith, and feed your nervous system with a vocabulary of constructive, progressive, productive and victorious words. Speak those words; keep repeating them, so that they will have control of your whole body.”

Dr. David Yonggi Cho: “The Fourth Dimension.”

The Bible says clearly that whatsoever controls the tongue, controls the whole body. What you speak, you are going to get. What you think, you are conditioned to do.

So, change your language. Switch up, and dance to a new tune that will leave your body bridled up for great things.

The Bible says that “whatsoever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatsoever you release on Earth shall be released in heaven.”

Simply put, you can use your spoken word to change and create.

Thoughts are important. Be positive in your thinking, do not think negatively. There is nothing negative in God, for in God there is only the positive. Feed your mind with Scripture, for the Word of God is full of positive life.

Negative thoughts will happen no matter what you do. Even today I sometimes struggle with negative thoughts. But I found a way out, and I’m creating this habit where I actively hold up every negative thought to God’s word. The major recipe is by reading the Scripture.

Can you relate? What’s your thought?🥺

I am Oluwaferanmi

And you are loved by God.❤️

PS: I have a song recommendation for you.🤸 “Dearly loved” by Shaylee Simeone. It’s been on my heart stereo since Monday.🤍 “I am loved, dearly loved by a Father who won’t leave me…” Phewww, what perfect love!

PPS: I’m still considering turning vegan.🥺


Stay blessed.🤍

Eight Lessons at 18.

  • Author: Kayode-Folorunsho Blessed O.
  • Genre: Memoir.
  • Publication Date: 18th July, 2021.
  • Publisher: Self-published.

Thank you Blessed Oluwatofunmi for this free e-book. I am providing my honest opinion voluntarily.

Blessed’s “Eight Lessons at 18” is a 25 paged book. In there, she outlined eight crucial lessons as she clicked 18. Although this is a short book, it’s one that packs quite a punch. Moreover, it’s free!

Click on the link and grab yours. It’s definitely worth a read!

My thoughts on the book? Yeah, I shared some personal insights I got from the book. I hope this encourages you to get your own copy.

I have a purpose. The universe is weird. There are billions of people in the world and sometimes I need to take a moment to realize I’m just one small silver in those multiple billion. “Why am I one of those billion, what am I supposed to do in such a big world with such little time?” “Why do I have this life?” I’d ask myself. And I realized, everyone has a part in this world, that’s why I was given this world, this place in time. We have this life, necessarily not because of one giant event, one thing or something we were sent to accomplish, but for the little things. My life is not the small, insignificant story I often believe it to be. It is a story designed by and for my Maker, who wants to glory in His accomplishments in and through me. God created me for a purpose, and I am a marvelous work of God. You have a purpose. And He has made us the conduit through which He can accomplish His purposes here on earth.

Relationships matter. Humans are social beings. And while we relate with others, we have to be mindful of the relationships we keep. Build meaningful relationships and nurture them. Be careful of the things you let influence you. Make great connections. And never you think you can do life on your own. You need people.

Be accountable. Accountability and responsibility, dang it! I had once hated greatly on those words. Cause seriously, no one desire a clipped freedom. No one would happily dig the idea of being a caged bird. Now, I can say accountability provides a way for us to take personal responsibility for our lives; a chance to be intentional about our lives. And it sure trains us in humility and honesty. Being accountable hurts no one. In fact, in there lies great benefits. Just two things – learn to fear the Lord, and get an accountability partner.

Live a life of honour. And what other better way to go about that than seeking to follow the Lord’s will in everything. Staying true to our promises, spreading love, living a life of integrity, giving respect to whom it’s due, that better sum it up.

Challenges will always be there. Who says it’s gonna be smooth sailing? Challenges have their ways of surfacing, and they will always surface. (Now, I’m being no prophet of doom). John 16:33 says, “… In the world you have tribulation and distress and suffering, but be confident I have overcome the world.” Challenges in life are a given, but you can use them to your advantage. Sometimes we do think we will reach a point in our lives where we no longer have any challenges, but the truth is, in every stage of our lives, careers, ventures or relationships, we will be challenged, be it by the things we expect or do not expect. Life wasn’t made to be without any obstacle. Even Jesus had it bad at some points. As long as we’re striving forward, there will be challenges. Just keep going, you never can tell when you will get there.

Refuse unnecessary pressure. What do I term as unnecessary pressure? Comparing yourself, your abilities, with someone else. Someone made it big at a particular age and you feel you should as well? It shouldn’t be. For one, you never can tell what the other person had been exposed to from an early age; the opportunities the person had that you may not even score in years to come. We are different individuals with unique callings. You’ve got potentials in you. You’ve got value. You have something to offer. Stay true to your path. Don’t in any way, feel pressured to live up to someone’s standard. You are pretty great the way you are. Just keep doing whatever you do, and when it’s time, it’s gonna be a big bang.

“One day you will wake up with great excitement knowing that you are yourself and you’ll be excited about the things you can create.” – Martin Ortiz.

Always have a target. I don’t picture the future. To me, it’s fickle as it never pans out the way we hope. I don’t plot, I just go with it. Meaning, most times, I don’t have a specific target… I just go with it. Over time, I’ve realized the importance of always having a target. It keeps you on track, spur you on and keep you going consistently. You get to achieve a goal in a timeframe. Setting targets also helps you to judge whether you’re making improvements. Join me in this, will you? Let’s set goals and keep trying until we reach ’em.

Be positive, God gat you! Did anyone catch those last three words? God gat you! Even when you feel tired, stressed out and completely overwhelmed, God’s got your back. Isaiah 41:13 says, “I am the Lord your God who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.” Right there, He’s saying, “don’t worry, don’t stress, don’t be discouraged, I’ve got this. It’s all under control, it will all work out.” I bawled my eyes out at this point. What’s more amazing than a big God being my anchor? I’ve got Him to cheer me on at every right points. I can simply sit back, relax and watch Him fight my battles. He hold true to His promises, and right now and till forever, He’s got me cause I’m His. That promise from God is an assurance that He’s interested in our lives. You don’t have to panic when you can’t control what’s happening. God gave you a purpose that requires you to trust in Him in special ways? That is His way of stretching and strengthening your faith muscles. Maybe God has chosen something bigger for you, something you wouldn’t have chosen for yourself. Believe there’s a reason behind all that you go through. So, hop on, let’s enjoy this ride, God gat us!

Y’all, meet beautiful Blessed!

You can check out her blog at Blessed Oluwatofunmi’s blog Her contents are enriching and their depths lie in God’s Word. A visit, shall we? Do leave a comment and like. She sure would love to know your thoughts on her blog posts.


I am Oluwaferanmi,

And you are loved by God.❤️


“There we saw the Nephilim, and we were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight.” Numbers 13:33(Amplified).

“I am Blessed, Prosperous, Redeemed, Forgiven, Talented, Creative, Confident, Secure, Disciplined, Focused, Prepared, Qualified, Motivated, Valuable, Free, Determined, Equipped, Empowered, Anointed, Accepted and Approved. Not average, not mediocre, I am a child of the Most High God.” – Joel Osteen.

Seeing people limit themselves do make me angry sometimes. I see the potential in people, but they don’t do anything about it. They settle for mediocrity, and they believe they can’t do better. Maybe they’ve picked up a few ideas while growing up, and now those ideas are holding them back.

Trust me, I’ve been there. I’ve had my fair share of low self-esteem, lack of confidence, self-doubt and fear. The change in me began when my language changed. My confessions became positive, my mindset got changed. Ever heard of the mirror therapy? That worked too. And no, it wasn’t just a change that happened overnight. It was gradual, and I’m still getting better. I’m learning to make peace with myself, with my body, with my abilities, and my potentials.

Now, I’m not perfect. I get stuck just like anyone else. Negativity still do cloud my little mind, I do have my dose of fear, reality still surface in the face of positivity. But I’m trying to hold fast to positive confessions. I’m not talking about forceful improvement, but declaring divine promises and confessions over my life with the help of the Holy Spirit.

“We were like grasshoppers in our own sight, and so we were in their sight.” A simple fact off this; “You are what you see. You are what you confess.” What you confess is what you reflect, and that’s the platform on which people’s judgement of you will be built.

What is your hashtag?

What do you think of you?

What are your confessions about all that pattern to you?

Are your words a product of fear? Of what had been wired into you from birth? Of what the world present to you that seem to be fickle? Or of what people say or think about you?

Well, goodnews. You can change your words. You have a choice as about the confessions you make on your life. And you are your choice.

Today and till forever, I choose to say;

I am whole, enough and worthy.

I am unlimited and unstoppable.

I’m never selling myself short.

My becoming is near.

My season of bloom is here.

My life experience no stagnancy.

I’m moving forward.

I’m pressing on to higher ground.

There is a seed of greatness in me.

I experience surpassing greatness from now henceforth.

I want no fading glory,

But a lasting and impactful one.

I am of the Lord,

His grace abounds for me.

The whole world is waiting for me.

I’m about to take over.

I’m declaring these over my life, will you join in? The tongue has power, and it’s about time we make use of our authority as God’s children.

From my heart to yours,

Thrive, prosper and flourish.