Random compliments – throw them around like confetti.

They aren’t yours, to begin with. Dish them out freely, they aren’t yours to keep. A kind, genuine, thoughtful compliment has the power to turn someone’s day around in an instant and make them feel proud, happy, and appreciated. Just ensure you do when you tell someone you like their shirt and it’s not being said in Mean Girls Regina George-style “Oh my God I love your bracelet, where did you get it?!” (We all watched “Mean Girls”, right?😂)

“If you see something beautiful in someone, speak it.”

Ruthie Lindsey.

Compliments make us feel good. They help us communicate the appreciation we feel toward one another. Just yesterday, a friend told me I was doing well. Of course, I knew that already, but sometimes, it takes someone repeating it to you to give you the strength and courage you need to carry on. Another instance was when I attended to an older woman at my mum’s stand last week. Before departing, she complimented me with these words: “You have a beautiful smile, Feranmi.” I wasn’t compliment-starved in that area, yet her words made my day, and the next time she came, the big smile wasn’t far from my face. My point from this – behaviors that get rewarded are likely to be repeated. So, if you tell someone how much you liked his smile when you greeted each other, he’s likely to smile again on seeing you.

I need you to get this right. Giving out compliments – even to strangers – is not about you being fake and looking for people to like you. No, it’s way beyond that. If you pass someone, and like something, say it. But make sure it’s a STAR compliment – Specific, True, Appropriate, and Respectful. “I love those shoes!” or “Nice hairdo!” or “You have a beautiful smile!” or “You are amazing!” or “Wow your eyes are beautiful.”…

Don’t hold back. Why? Because life is hard and people can be mean plus nobody wants a mean comment. You never know how much those few words can mean to someone. It’s nice to be nice, so try your little best to put positivity out there in the universe.

“Everybody likes a compliment.”

Abraham Lincoln.

Never underestimate the power of a random compliment. Sometimes, the simple compliments mean the most. Throw compliments around like confetti. Make someone’s day.🤸‍♂️❤

Stay beautiful!

I am Oluwaferanmi,

And you are loved by God!❤

PS: I do not want this to turn into a long post. So tomorrow, I’ll be back with another write-up on what you should know about how to give compliments and receive them. See you tomorrow! Bright and early.🤗

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